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Live Smarter. Better. More Fulfilled.

Drawing on the latest in neuroscience, positive and cognitive psychology, and behavioral science, New Habit Mindset offers you key information to take actionable steps to create better results in your life,  achieve your ambitious goals, and experience greater well-being and happiness.



“We are we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”
– Will Durant, The Story of Philosophy (1926)

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21 one wishes to my 21-year-old son.

I remember so vividly turning 21.  Back then you could drink at 18 so it wasn’t about the legality of consuming booze that made the event memorable.

Somehow turning 21 meant I was really crossing the threshold into adulthood.  It was an age that put my teenage years behind me and my adult independence within a hands reach.

As I celebrate my son’s 21st birthday, I think about my 21-year-old self and the lessons learned.  How many times did I spend worrying about inconsequential things, or kept my mouth shut when maybe it would have been better to advocate more vocally for myself or for others.

It’s always easier looking back.  But if we keep sticking to the hard work –  the work that requires to stand tall, live by our values, be professional, show up, and have the discipline to take courageous small steps forward, we can all live meaningful and fulfilling lives.

What would you tell your  21 year-old-self?

1. Be kind yourself and to others.

Being kind yourself is a lot harder than you think.  Self-compassion and forgiveness are cornerstones to building a life of happiness and humility.

2. Enjoy the journey.

The destination for all of us is death.  Don’t rush through life.  Savor the days. Savor the moments that really matter. Look for the good.

3. Learn when to say ‘no’.

It is easy to fall into a trap of pleasing others.  Risking rejection or feeling that you might be letting someone down are difficult emotions to navigate.  At the end of the day, you need to respect yourself which is more important than anything.  Learn when you need to walk away.  Learn when saying ‘no’ serves you.

4. Keep getting up and be professional.

When you were learning to walk, you fell down a lot.  It was not a big deal.  Falling down was just feedback on how you might get better at standing upright.  Make mistakes and learn from them.  They help you grow.  But also there are times when you are not going to want to do something.  You just don’t feel like it.  But keep showing up.  Be professional.  Don’t give to the whims of your emotions.

5. Be aware of your assumptions.

Sometimes we are all quick to judge and quick to assume.  But our eyes and our perceptions fool us constantly.  Watch out for assumptions as they could easily lead you down the wrong path. Learn how to ask really good questions. Dive deep. Discover new truths.

6. Make the world a better place.

Materialism, power, and money are seductive.  You will be most proud of doing work that is meaningful to you and is helping others

7. Laugh often.

And mostly at yourself.  Life can be serious, difficult, challenging, discouraging, and hard.  Laughter can decrease your stress hormones and build up your immune cells.  Laughing is contagious – what a great thing to spread.

8. Keep exercising your courage muscle.

Courage is the opposite of fear.  No one can accomplish any courageous act without experiencing fear or self-doubt.  Practice stepping outside your comfort zone.  Every single person experiences fear.   Just feel the fear and do it anyway.

9. Friends matter.

Liking something on Facebook, Twitter,  or Instagram does not cultivate friendships. Snapchat is not a conversation.  Pick up the phone and call someone and have a meaningful conversation.  Go visit someone.  Reach out personally. Treasure conversations with friends outside of social media.

10.  Save for a rainy day.

If you live to be 100, you will be working for 65 – 70 years.  Build your financial nest egg first. Life will bring you uncertain times or you will want a change.

11. Live by your values.

Knowing your values and what is really important to you will help you make better decisions. It’s easy to get distracted.  Know your “why?”

12. Don’t take too much personally.

Stuff happens.  People say things or do things that really have nothing to do with you.  Don’t take too much personally.   Seek feedback from those you can trust.  But otherwise, don’t get rattled by other people’s stuff.

13. Know your biases.

We have a lot of biases.  Maybe over 100.  The two that seem to trip us up a lot are our unconscious and cognitive biases.  Challenge your biases, the same way you need to challenge your assumptions.  The world is complex and nuanced. It is easy to distill information down to a way that only supports your way of thinking. This will limit you.  Understand where your thinking may be limiting you.

14. Forgive and forget.

People are going to do things that piss you off.  You may even do something that causes shame or embarrassment.  Get over it.  Forgive yourself.  Forgive others. Move on.  Life is short.  The planet has been spinning for 4.5 billion years.  If you can’t forgive, or you feel guilty about something, go make it right, and then move on.

15. Cultivate curiosity.

A curious mindset will help you immensely.  It opens up doors to creative thinking and keeps you in the present moment.

16. Learn how to ask for help.

Life will throw a curve ball or maybe several.  Unexpected events happen.  Cultivate a network of friends.  Accept your own vulnerability.  Ask for help.  We are here for each other.

17.  Have plan A, B, or C for your near future.

It is great to have goals.   They help you focus and achieve results in your life that really matter to you.  Willpower, deliberate practice, and commitment are attributes that will help you achieve results.  But sometimes life doesn’t go as planned.  When you have alternative options, you will feel more in charge of your life and less likely to be a victim of circumstances.

18. Know what you can and cannot control.

A lot of stress and anxiety is lost to thinking about things we cannot control.  At the end of the day, you are in control of your emotions, your thoughts, your behaviors, how you spend your time, and your actions.  Pretty much everything else is outside of your control.  You may be able to influence outcomes or people.  That is very different from control.  Understand the difference between control and influence.  Let go of things that are outside of your control.

19. You always have a choice.

Often we can get stuck in a victim mindset when we feel as if we have no choice.  But if you dive deep into the situation, you probably find that you have more choices than you realize, even if the choice is how you respond to a situation.

20.  You will most likely have 5 careers or more.

The world is changing so fast.  New careers are being created all the time while others are disappearing.  You have no idea what types of new jobs will be available even in 5 years from now.  Keep an open mind.  Don’t let your past passions or professions define your future. Most of us are multifaceted with multiple interests.  It’s ok to change. Be open to possibilities you haven’t even imagined.

21.  Know that you are loved.

You are enough just being you.  You don’t need to prove anything to anyone except yourself.  Maybe you won’t understand this now, but there is nothing like a parent’s love for their children.  It’s deep and wide.  We aren’t perfect.  Sometimes we say the wrong things or make mistakes.  But know that you are loved!!


22. Practice a sustainable lifestyle

It’s easy to experience burn out. Pace yourself. Eat well.  Make exercise a priority.  Walk in nature. Meditate or practice mindfulness.  Advocate for clean air, non-toxic environments, and natural resources.  These steps will allow you and our planet to be around for a long, long time.


Recommended Books

Tribe of Mentors by Timothy Ferriss




The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey




The Five Second Rule by Mel Robbins


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5 Key areas of your well-being. Where are you thriving and where are you not?

Our consumer-driven culture seduces us daily with all sorts of reasons to buy the latest fashion, gadget, toy, game, and car.  Advertising has us chasing product deals falsely tying our self-worth to some “thing.”

While consumerism may be good for the economy, is it really good for you? Do more toys or more clothes or more gadgets really make you happier?

What really improves your well-being?

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Three simple habits to get unstuck in any area of your life.

The self-help movement is a $9.9 billion industry but the US population is generally unhappy, overweight, disengaged at work, and not saving any money. Here are the statistics: 

There is no shortage of gurus, programs, or blogs (like this one)  to help you with personal mastery, health and fitness, weight loss, relationships, career or financial planning, mindfulness, or anything else you want to tweak or change in your life.

Why are are we unable to change?  Why do we get so stuck in our status quo?

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26 ways you can achieve a marathon mindset and reach your goals.

Today is the Boston Marathon.  It’s the oldest continuing running marathon that attracts international elite athletes to compete in running 26.2 miles.  Due to its competitive entry requirements, the field is limited to 30,000 entrants of which 80% must beat a qualifying time at another marathon in their age category.  It’s not for the faint-hearted but for goal-driven, competitive personalities.   

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Improve your life and face your biggest challenges with these 5 habits.

Life-threatening illnesses, the death of a loved one, financial/job loss, divorce, tragic accidents, natural disasters, wars, or terror attacks can come out of nowhere and suddenly appear in your life.  These natural disasters or traumatic events on the surface seem to be anything but a blessing.

There is an old Taoist short story that highlights the unpredictability of life and maintaining a detached perspective on our experiences.

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How to improve your health and your heart with Love 2.0

It’s a $19.8 billion dollar holiday.  Yes, it’s Valentine’s Day. The average American consumer spends $137.56  on Valentine’s Day cards, flowers, chocolates, meals, and other presents to woo, wow, or bestow love to that special someone.

With almost 30 days since the commercial hype of this romantic holiday, have you lost that lovin’ feeling?

  • Isn’t love more than just cupids, red hearts, and roses?
  • And what if you don’t have a romantic partner?  

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Up your game by asking better questions.

Our educational system teaches us to think, analyze, write, compute, and create. Drawing on the Socratic method our classroom discussions are centered around a model where the expert, or the teacher, is the one with the responsibility for asking questions to stimulate thinking, dialogue, and debate.  

But what about the student?  How do our schools teach the skill and practice of formulating better questions?  

Think about it, the questions you ask in any given situation might manipulate, direct, offend, empower, inform, assume, or even influence creative input.
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How to use positive psychology to kickstart your goals for 2018.

When I ask you, “how was your day?”, what is your response?

Do you immediately recount the negative experiences that have recently happened or are you able to identify some of the positive outcomes you may have experienced?

Most people dwell on the areas of their life that are not going well or where they have experienced negative emotions.  This tendency is driven by the default wiring in your brain.  Positive psychology and strength-based questions can help override your negative thinking and improve your capacity to create success in your life by focusing on what is going well for you now and building on your key strengths.

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Feast or Moderation. How to keep off extra weight this Holiday season with customized incentives that work for you.

As we approach the end of the year, November and December mark two months of celebrations, feasts, holiday desserts and that unavoidable uptick in caloric intake.

The weight you sweated and worked so hard to shed when you made your New Year’s resolution back in early January is now at risk.  According to research, the average person gains 1.3 pounds during the holiday season starting in October with Halloween and ending in December after the Christmas holiday.

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Reacting vs Responding: How mindfulness can tame your emotional frenzy.

Do you find yourself yelling at the TV because of something said by a politician? Maybe you engage in road rage as you drive to work because someone cut you off or the light didn’t turn green fast enough. Perhaps a colleague or a spouse questions something you did and suddenly you go into red alert prepared for a full-on self-defense attack. These knee-jerk reactions are causing havoc on your well-being and health and mostly likely impairing your ability to make better decisions.

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