Researcher- storyteller Brené Brown advocates that living bravely actually requires us to lean into our discomfort and to be vulnerable. Her research shows that those who are willing to experience risk, emotional exposure, and uncertainty have greater self-worthiness and courage.
The paradox of courage is that you become stronger when you are vulnerable and at the same time you increase your connection with others when you expose your authentic self. This requires trust.
In her book Rising Strong: The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution, Brené Brown outlines 7 components of creating self-trust and trust of others.
She presents the acronym B-R-A-V-I-N-G to help you discern components of trust.
Here are 7 trust questions from her book:
B = Did I respect my own BOUNDARIES? Was I clear about what’s okay and what’s not okay?
R = Was I RELIABLE? Did I do what I said I was going to do?
A = Do I hold myself ACCOUNTABLE?
V = Did I respect the VAULT? This is the space where other people’s stories are kept in confidence.
I = Did I act from my INTEGRITY?
N = Did I ask for what I NEEDED? Was I nonjudgmental in needing help? (We can ask for what we each other needs without judging it as a weakness.)
G = Was I GENEROUS toward myself? Did I extend the most generous interpretations possible to the intentions, words and deeds of others? In other words, did I assume people were doing their best?
To be a fully engaged authentic individual requires you to trust yourself and others, to take risks and be vulnerable, and to embrace your whole self as you move through life.