Today is the Boston Marathon. It’s the oldest continuing running marathon that attracts international elite athletes to compete in running 26.2 miles. Due to its competitive entry requirements, the field is limited to 30,000 entrants of which 80% must beat a qualifying time at another marathon in their age category. It’s not for the faint-hearted but for goal-driven, competitive personalities.
Life-threatening illnesses, the death of a loved one, financial/job loss, divorce, tragic accidents, natural disasters, wars, or terror attacks can come out of nowhere and suddenly appear in your life. These natural disasters or traumatic events on the surface seem to be anything but a blessing.
There is an old Taoist short story that highlights the unpredictability of life and maintaining a detached perspective on our experiences.
It’s a $19.8 billion dollar holiday. Yes, it’s Valentine’s Day. The average American consumer spends $137.56 on Valentine’s Day cards, flowers, chocolates, meals, and other presents to woo, wow, or bestow love to that special someone.
With almost 30 days since the commercial hype of this romantic holiday, have you lost that lovin’ feeling?
- Isn’t love more than just cupids, red hearts, and roses?
- And what if you don’t have a romantic partner?
Our educational system teaches us to think, analyze, write, compute, and create. Drawing on the Socratic method our classroom discussions are centered around a model where the expert, or the teacher, is the one with the responsibility for asking questions to stimulate thinking, dialogue, and debate.
But what about the student? How do our schools teach the skill and practice of formulating better questions?
Think about it, the questions you ask in any given situation might manipulate, direct, offend, empower, inform, assume, or even influence creative input.
When I ask you, “how was your day?”, what is your response?
Do you immediately recount the negative experiences that have recently happened or are you able to identify some of the positive outcomes you may have experienced?
Most people dwell on the areas of their life that are not going well or where they have experienced negative emotions. This tendency is driven by the default wiring in your brain. Positive psychology and strength-based questions can help override your negative thinking and improve your capacity to create success in your life by focusing on what is going well for you now and building on your key strengths.
As we approach the end of the year, November and December mark two months of celebrations, feasts, holiday desserts and that unavoidable uptick in caloric intake.
The weight you sweated and worked so hard to shed when you made your New Year’s resolution back in early January is now at risk. According to research, the average person gains 1.3 pounds during the holiday season starting in October with Halloween and ending in December after the Christmas holiday.
Do you find yourself yelling at the TV because of something said by a politician? Maybe you engage in road rage as you drive to work because someone cut you off or the light didn’t turn green fast enough. Perhaps a colleague or a spouse questions something you did and suddenly you go into red alert prepared for a full-on self-defense attack. These knee-jerk reactions are causing havoc on your well-being and health and mostly likely impairing your ability to make better decisions.
What do you when you are faced with uncertainty, fear, or stress? How do you cope with obstacles? Stoic philosophy could provide you with very useful tools to navigate life’s challenges.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.
~ Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love
Many people freeze when wanting to move forward because they are afraid of failure. But what if we are really paralyzed by the fear of success.
Are you a perfectionist? Do people call out your perfectionism as a negative trait?
Often when I am striving to excel, persisting with the nitty-gritty to get something “just right,” and suddenly a roadblock or catastrophe occurs sending me off course, the advice I typically get is to: