Today is the Boston Marathon. It’s the oldest continuing running marathon that attracts international elite athletes to compete in running 26.2 miles. Due to its competitive entry requirements, the field is limited to 30,000 entrants of which 80% must beat a qualifying time at another marathon in their age category. It’s not for the faint-hearted but for goal-driven, competitive personalities.
When I ask you, “how was your day?”, what is your response?
Do you immediately recount the negative experiences that have recently happened or are you able to identify some of the positive outcomes you may have experienced?
Most people dwell on the areas of their life that are not going well or where they have experienced negative emotions. This tendency is driven by the default wiring in your brain. Positive psychology and strength-based questions can help override your negative thinking and improve your capacity to create success in your life by focusing on what is going well for you now and building on your key strengths.
As we approach the end of the year, November and December mark two months of celebrations, feasts, holiday desserts and that unavoidable uptick in caloric intake.
The weight you sweated and worked so hard to shed when you made your New Year’s resolution back in early January is now at risk. According to research, the average person gains 1.3 pounds during the holiday season starting in October with Halloween and ending in December after the Christmas holiday.
Are you a perfectionist? Do people call out your perfectionism as a negative trait?
Often when I am striving to excel, persisting with the nitty-gritty to get something “just right,” and suddenly a roadblock or catastrophe occurs sending me off course, the advice I typically get is to:
‘Tis the season of graduations where notable entertainers, politicians, business owners, leaders, artists and authors impart words of wisdom and advice to the graduating class.
- Do you remember your commencement address?
- Do you recall the wise words passed along to you to help you navigate your way forward into the world?
My mind draws a blank when reflecting back to my own commencement ceremony from college. I cannot recall any profound words of wisdom that have stuck with me through the decades.
If you are feeling stuck, stymied, or dissatisfied with the lack of progress in achieving one of your goals, try infusing your routine with a sprint commitment.
What is a sprint commitment?
Drawing on my experience with athletics, it is a focused, short-term burst of activity which challenges you to accelerate your momentum and surpass your status quo.
Martin Luther King Jr. Day highlights an opportunity for us to reflect on our community, our hopes and dreams, and our path to a better future.
The Reverend King inspires us to not only pursue our dreams and goals but also to fight against injustice and social inequity. He challenges us to become agitators.
In his Letter from a Birmingham Jail, Dr. King talks about his desire to foster tension because the community has become complacent. He is referenced as an “outside agitator.”
For many years our family has celebrated the winter solstice as a way to mark the longest night and the shortest day, while reflecting on our own light and dark moments of 2016 and setting an intention for the year ahead.
Do you find yourself thinking, “I have to do this!” while deep inside you are dragging, resisting, or avoiding every possible step to actually do the task at hand?
Do you ever think, “they are making me do this?” “They” could be your teacher assigning you homework, your boss giving you an undesirable project, your parents requiring some family obligation, or your church group, friends, or the I.R.S. requiring some action on your part.
“There is a difference between interest and commitment.
When you are interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient.
When you are committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.”
~ Kenneth Blanchard
This concept of interest vs commitment, hobby vs career, amateur vs professional presents important dichotomies to consider when you reflect on what gives meaning and purpose to your life. They encourage you to consider where you are spending your most precious resource: your time.